How do you dress for your mastectomy? The surgery itself is easy, actually. During the cutting, you’re wearing nothing at all, unconscious and strapped to a table in a martyr’s pose, arms out in a T, while an OR crew that looks like the cast of a reality show bustles around doing God knows what. But after. What do you […]
Dressing for a Wound: How my body and I reconciled after a mastectomy. Read More
Several weeks ago I saw a young woman on the subway accidentally dump a full cup of iced coffee into the seat next to her. A large puddle rippled in the molded plastic divot, threatening to overflow at any moment. Panicked and helpless, the embarrassed woman gazed at her mess. She couldn’t disown it. And yet the two flimsy napkins
Men Know It’s Better to Carry Nothing Read More
In 1972 or 1973, I went to the circus with my friend and afterward her father picked us up. We were 9 or 10 years old, and while we had been enjoying the circus, her father and his new girlfriend had gone to see the porno Deep Throat, which at the time was a groovy thing to do. The film was
How a Predator Operated in Plain Sight Read More
On an unseasonably chilly morning in May, three dozen or so plaintiff-parents, most of them from the Green Meadow Waldorf School, showed up at the Rockland County Courthouse, looking, in their draped layers and comfortable shoes, like any PTA from Park Slope or Berkeley.
Measles for the One Percent Read More
It was 2013,and David Brooks was in the wilderness. Not the literal desert or jungle or anything like that, but the emotional wilderness of an accomplished man who, in midlife, has discovered a deep emptiness at his core. His marriage of 27 years was falling apart. The genteel conservatism in which he was nurtured and raised was morphing into something
Even before she was born, our daughter was our priority. My husband and I married late in our lives, propelled toward each other largely by a mutual urge to procreate, and we saw in the other the qualities necessary for raising a child: stamina, humor, intelligence, kindness, good health, a durable beauty. We hurled ourselves at the strictures of parenthood
The Wife Who Wonders How the Empty Nest Will Remake Her Marriage Read More
Marriage has a profound effect on the financial lives of women. And the financial lives of women have a profound effect on their marriages. Why publish a long-form financial investigation about heterosexual marriage? Well, there’s a wealth of available data that proves it’s one of the most-studied social phenomena. And because its effects are surprising — and often troubling. Journalist
Marriage: The Money Story Read More
The first reaction I received was from a friend. We are not intimate — I did not know that she has struggled with major depression all her life — but her text was emphatic. It was just before Christmas, and she had written to say that she had immediately forwarded my New York Magazine cover story, “Listening to Estrogen” to
Women Battling Their Hormones Are Demanding to Be Heard Read More
The Cut on Tuesday’s podcast revisits Lisa Miller’s cover story about the links between menopause and schizophrenia. Lisa tells us how the story came to be — and why she got more invested in it than she ever expected to. And we hear from some of the women who told Lisa about what they went through. Listen Here: Megaphone Apple
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Hormones have always been a third rail in female mental health. They may also be a skeleton key. When she was 45, at around the same time her menstrual periods became irregular, Janet developed an obsession with a man at work. Now 61, Janet has the same job she had back then, managing the chemistry-department stockroom at a small northeastern
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